Fix Relationship and Get Him Back - 5 Tips for the On and Off Relationship

Here we are again, is there trouble in paradise?

Being in an on-and-off relationship can become extremely emotional, somewhat often. Sometimes it will be a rare occurrence, but when it does happen, its drastic, heartbreaking, overwhelming, scary, and just overall unbearable.

I know! I've been there, most of have. The good news is, there is definitely still an opportunity for things to work out, and even change. A change that can be permanent and fundamental for your relationship.

First lets confirm that it’s not a deal-breaker reason why you and him broke things off. As in:

· He cheated on you

· He lied in a big way

· He put you down constantly

· He verbally or physically abused you

I don't recommend pursuing this man if any of these examples apply to you. There are many reasons due to past experiences, that cause women to go back to men who treat them in this manner. Consider working through this by taking time to reflect and understand where this stems from, and what the root problem really is.

So, with that being said.. Let’s get to these great 5 Tips for the On and Off Relationship!

1. Don't think about him, if you can (This tip is number one for a reason, in my opinion, it’s the most important)

Okay, here me out .. We are all energy, and truthfully I believe that humans can feel when someone is obsessing over them/constantly thinking about them. Think about it, if you have a close bonded relationship with someone, someone who I'm sure you've had moments where you both think the same thing (Telepathy - Communicating with your mind), you really don't think its possible for him to know/feel that your are always thinking about him? Why do you think men always come back once you've moved on and are over him (and no longer thinking of him)..?

So, if you want to get him back, I suggest distracting yourself and drop the thoughts, and enjoy the things you love and the life you love. This will allow your overwhelmed mind to get rest, and will allow his mind to rest from your thoughts as well.. Makes sense?

2. Give Him Space

Let him be, let him think. It’s true what they say, men are very simple creatures, and their thought process is not like women. I love observing them because they are so caveman-like, so wild and animalistic to a certain degree. Its funny, charming, and special. This is why it’s important to give them the space that they need. They need to think. When they do this thinking, they need their space to fully process and understand what happened. This will also make him miss you, and he won’t feel that you NEED him (clinginess), because in all reality, you don’t!

3. Let Him Come to You

First of all, little lady, you are a damsel, this man needs to chase YOU, not the opposite. Men don’t like to be chased or “convinced” that they need to be with you. If you are special to him and have impacted his life in any way, there is no reason why he wouldn’t come back. So, allow him to do this in his own time, when he feels mentally and emotionally ready. If you and him have been in an on and off relationship for some time, there is NO way he’s just going to vanish off the face of the earth. So, this is your time to take a chill pill, trust in the timing of life, and focus on YOU!

4. Put Yourself First

You are a fabulous woman. Full of life and beauty.. time to focus on that! Be that lovable person he fell in love with. Just by feeling good internally and passionate about life, will make you more desirable to everyone around you, including him. Focus on what makes you feel happy and alive. Consider going on a trip, kayaking, the beach, going for a run, bike ride, etc. Live this life you were born to live, and all the right things will magnetize towards you. You’ll see.

5. Hold a Clear Positive Vision

That’s right, focus on positivity ONLY. You may notice in the beginning its actually easier to be negative, but all that will attract is the same negativity. Convince your mind of all these positive outcomes that you want, and honey, it will come! I guarantee it, manifestation is a powerful tool, and this all begins with positive thoughts. BELIEVE that everything will work out, and they will. Especially if he is the right one for you. Nothing can stand in the way of destiny, truly believe that only good things will come, and they will!

If you would like a more in depth understanding of a man's thought process, and how to get him back, you should check out the book How Do I Get Him Back. It helped me so much when I was going through a break up. But after using it, everything changed! He changed, and our relationship changed for the better. Its life changing and transformational stuff, if you read it and understand it thoroughly, you will see rapid and effective results. Also, if you purchase the book, leave a comment and let me know what you think!

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Sending love to all you goddesses out there!

xoxo